The Narrow Gate
One of the Few…
It is better to be part of the few than to be part of the many:
“Enter through the narrow gate; for the gate is wide and the road broad that leads to destruction, and those who enter through it are many. How narrow the gate and constricted the road that leads to life. And those who find it are few.” -Matthew 7:13-14, NAB
Next week, I will be married, and I decided that I would speak on my final Sunday as a single man about my own personal story. This is the story of our relationship and one very difficult decision.
Almost four years ago, I met a young woman who would one day change my life. At the time, we were just friends because she has a serious boyfriend. Eventually, we became the best of friends, and we shared everything about our lives. Despite her being in a relationship, I could not help but begin to have feelings for her, but when her relationship fell apart, I did not know what to do. I decided that for the time being, I would give her time to heal and support her the best way a friend possibly could.
After almost a year, things changed and the topic of us dating began to come up. For me, it was obvious; I knew how much I cared about her. For her, it was not quite so simple. I tried many times to win her over, but she rejected me time and time again. Part of me just would not give up. I knew that I loved this girl, and I could see a future for us together, even if she couldn’t. Even with all of the rejections, I did not give up. Finally, one fateful Sunday afternoon, after hours of her telling me why she could not date me, I kissed her. The rest, as they say, is history.
Because of our strong friendship, things moved quickly. In a few short months, we were living together. I had begun the RCIA process, and we begin living “normal” lives. Unfortunately, we didn’t realize that we were just playing house. We were living like a married couple, but we had cheated a bit. When people cohabitate before marriage, you are not preparing yourself for marriage; instead, you are robbing yourself of it. Despite our outward appearance as good Christians and Catholics, we were not living up to the right moral standard.