1 Corinthians 7:3-4
Loving One Another…
One cannot study 1 Corinthians without understanding Paul’s teachings to the married:
“The husband should fulfill his duty toward his wife, and likewise the wife toward her husband. A wife does not have authority over her own body, but rather her husband, and similarly a husband does not have authority over his own body, but rather his wife.” -1 Corinthians 7:3-4, NAB
Oh, how men love this verse. Men all over the world use it as a rallying cry when discussing the bedroom with their wives, but we need to look beyond the surface (sorry, guys). Yes, Paul is telling us that our bodies belong to our spouse, but he is not telling us that it is ours to do with as we please. When we get married, we are not giving ourselves to be the object of the other person; we are giving ourselves to one another because we love and trust the other person to respect and adore us as Christ does. At times, some will withhold themselves to get what they want or to punish their spouse. On the other side of that coin, some will get angry when their spouse does not submit, but they never take the time to find out why. The Lord gave us a beautiful way to express our love and adoration for each other. We must not allow it to become the object that divides us through our own self-pleasing desires. Instead, we must learn how our intimate relationships with each other are a reflection of the beautiful love that we share. When we begin to see our intimate relationship as something that we give (and not get), then we will understand the beauty of this gift that God has given us.